I got a call this morning from a new sub and how she shared her story of being cuckolded, feminized and then his wife of many years left.
She told me she wanted to talk to someone she could trust.
Trust is Earned and Taken Seriously as a Mistress
I have never been submissive and I’ve never made a phone sex call. I can’t even fathom what that is life but it really must be nerve-wracking! I can only imagine harboring secrets for a long time and never able to really share with anyone except on a number to a phone sex site.
So when this sweet sub called me this morning she wanted someone she could trust – someone who wouldn’t judge or tear her apart for who she is.
Understandable!
When I hear such concerns, I don’t push, but listen until I know they are ready to be pushed.
Once Trust is Earned, then What?
Trust is like burrowing through the mud. You’re trying to move forward but you’re slow and you’re careful so you don’t say something to make you fall in deeper and this happens between both parties conversing: the recipient wants to be trusted and the one sharing wants to trust so it takes time. Once that breakthrough happens – it’s so freeing!
With her, I feel it happened pretty quickly as I was able to help her to relax, breathe deep and we were able to play with some dildos she had.
Overall, it was a great session and I look forward to her sharing more of herself in the future!
How You Can Share with Someone you Never Spoke to Before
Start as small as you want. Trust is built over time. You can share as much as your backstory or desires as much as you want. No one is forcing. If you are slow to trust, my suggestion is to start with one Mistress and stick with her. You can be as cautious as you feel but it’s good to bond with one so that you know you are safe. Then, sharing feels lighter and you’re able to express yourself in ways you’ve never been able to before!
Trance for Relaxation – How this Can Help
As some of you know, I do trance and mantra type of sessions and this can certainly help you to feel more at ease. I have a soothing voice that can lull you and it can certainly help you to open up. Some have a hard time opening up and dishing out all their secrets where others are an open book. If you require a key to unlock – then, you need to be lulled and relaxed first into a trance then you will feel more able to open up
It truly helps!
How Strict or Sensual do you Want it?
I am a switch on this. I think most women are – there are days we want to be more strict and other days we are more sensual. It really depends on the day, the weather, the mood and how good her coffee was that morning. Seriously!
However – if I had to rate myself on a sliding scale, I would say I’m more on the sensual side of things. I have a background in trance work and also calming the mind – plus, I always believed in getting my flies with honey and entrapping them that way. LOL
It just works out better for us Southern girls who love our sweet tea served to us on a silver platter. We’re still in control but still sweet.
I’m off on this Sunday to go do some much needed shopping! Find me on voxerotic.com this week – it’s the only site I’m on!
Mistress Liz
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